My quest for the perfect BDSM party in NYC continues as last night I checked out "Suspension".
Suspension has been getting rave reviews from many folks I trust so I really went out of my way to get there. For a variety of reasons, Suspension is held once month on a Sunday night at China 1 at 50 Avenue B in Manhattan. The doors open at 10:30 and close at 4:00 AM, much to the chagrin to us working folk. I have heard the main reason for the party being held on Sunday is that the organizers are having trouble finding a venue large enough to accommodate the size of the crowd they are drawing and still keep the costs down. They charge a very reasonable admission charge of 5$ for women and 10$ for men in "creative attire".
China 1 is a gorgeous club, loaded with couches and lots of lovely dark nooks and crannies for people to get naughty in. It has two pretty decent size rooms but it does get crowded. There were several suspension frames set up and there was play going on. Several rope luminaries were in attendance and putting on a show just by doing what comes naturally to them. Watch and learn, rope loving grasshoppers... The environment is still not absolutely optimal for BDSM play, but definitely the best I have seen at this kind of party in NYC.
There was very good music playing and a cash bar. The crowd was very pretty; dressing up was very much a big part of this party. One friend of mine said it was a fashion show kind of party. I can see how it could be interpreted that way. For me, though, there was just enough BDSM going on to keep me happy. Not ecstatic like I get at a big event like Dark Odyssey, TESFest or Floating World, but definitely happy. So the search for the "perfect" party continues, but Suspension is definitely a step in the right direction.
Monday, December 22, 2008
Saturday, December 13, 2008
I Love My Piercer
I'm quite thrilled this morning. Last night I finally went out and adjusted a few piercings I already had and got a brand new one. On a very high recommendation from a gentleman I met at Floating World who has a HUGE number of genital piercings and others as well, I went to Leroi Jewelers in Manhattan. I had called earlier and spoke to Pete who ended up being my piercer. Leroi Manhattan now share space with Daredevil Tattoos home of the Friday the thirteenth 13 dollar tattoo special. At first I thought I was in the wrong place. But, no, I was informed I was right. Pete came out and led me back to the piercing area in the back. Pete is a lovely guy who put me at ease right away.
I had had my nipples pieced back in July and they just weren't healing right. My fault. I shoulda listened to my first piercer and gotten the straight barbells. But, no, my heart was just so set on rings I had to have them. Well, finally the other night I was speaking with a friend about it who pointed out that the curvature and movement of the rings can cause continual irritation which slows healing. Doh! Of course it does! Silly girl. Also, when I first got them done they only had a 14 gauge ring not a 12. I never really was happy with that size. So Pete the Piercer and I talked about it and we decided to put straight barbells in, titanium just in case there was any allergy issue and size up to a 10 gauge. Pete was highly professional, exhibiting excellent aseptic technique. I'm a nurse, I can make that statement. Everything was fresh and out of a package (of course) and his area was clean and very well organized. He showed me the taper and how it would work. He instructed me to take a deep breath and let it out slowly, he did what he needed to do smoothly and efficiently. Was there pain? Of course. That's the nature of the beast. Do I believe he kept it to the minimum? Absolutely. The pain diminished to a very dull ache immediately and he let me see them in the mirror and I LOVED them. I love them even more this morning. The pain is almost completely gone. Not only that, they hurt less than the smaller rings I had in since July.
The next thing was size up my ear piercings which I have had since I was 14 to a 10 gauge as well. This hurt less, the pain was gone right after the new titanium jewelery went in. One look in the mirror and I was thrilled with them, too.
That left the last piercing, the one that I was most nervous about. The vertical clit hood piercing. With this one Pete recommended a straight 12 gauge barbell, again we went for titanium. I was uptight about this one. Even though I was flying on endorphins from the other piercings, I just could not relax. But I managed to hold still. I won't lie, this one hurt. I yelped. Pete was extremely quick about it though, and the second he was done, the pain was completely gone. And I do mean completely. I think the main reason it hurt so much was I was so tensed up. After he did it I joked about the fact that the reason the piercing area is all the way in the back was so the rest of the customers would not hear the screams. We had a chuckle about that. This morning I don't even know its there. Well, I do, but only in the best way. :-)
So check Leroi out and ask for my new friend Pete. Oh and, Pete? I'll be back.
I had had my nipples pieced back in July and they just weren't healing right. My fault. I shoulda listened to my first piercer and gotten the straight barbells. But, no, my heart was just so set on rings I had to have them. Well, finally the other night I was speaking with a friend about it who pointed out that the curvature and movement of the rings can cause continual irritation which slows healing. Doh! Of course it does! Silly girl. Also, when I first got them done they only had a 14 gauge ring not a 12. I never really was happy with that size. So Pete the Piercer and I talked about it and we decided to put straight barbells in, titanium just in case there was any allergy issue and size up to a 10 gauge. Pete was highly professional, exhibiting excellent aseptic technique. I'm a nurse, I can make that statement. Everything was fresh and out of a package (of course) and his area was clean and very well organized. He showed me the taper and how it would work. He instructed me to take a deep breath and let it out slowly, he did what he needed to do smoothly and efficiently. Was there pain? Of course. That's the nature of the beast. Do I believe he kept it to the minimum? Absolutely. The pain diminished to a very dull ache immediately and he let me see them in the mirror and I LOVED them. I love them even more this morning. The pain is almost completely gone. Not only that, they hurt less than the smaller rings I had in since July.
The next thing was size up my ear piercings which I have had since I was 14 to a 10 gauge as well. This hurt less, the pain was gone right after the new titanium jewelery went in. One look in the mirror and I was thrilled with them, too.
That left the last piercing, the one that I was most nervous about. The vertical clit hood piercing. With this one Pete recommended a straight 12 gauge barbell, again we went for titanium. I was uptight about this one. Even though I was flying on endorphins from the other piercings, I just could not relax. But I managed to hold still. I won't lie, this one hurt. I yelped. Pete was extremely quick about it though, and the second he was done, the pain was completely gone. And I do mean completely. I think the main reason it hurt so much was I was so tensed up. After he did it I joked about the fact that the reason the piercing area is all the way in the back was so the rest of the customers would not hear the screams. We had a chuckle about that. This morning I don't even know its there. Well, I do, but only in the best way. :-)
So check Leroi out and ask for my new friend Pete. Oh and, Pete? I'll be back.
Friday, December 12, 2008
Goodbye Bettie
Bettie Page died yesterday at the age of 85. I won't rewrite her obituary here, it will be all over the web. I will say that hers was one of the first commercial kink images I ever saw. I always thought she was an amazingly beautiful woman. Maybe one of my first girl crushes, right next to Emma Peel.Judge for yourself...
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Miss Pole Dance Australia 2008 - Felix - Winner
This has been making the rounds, but I just can not resist. The grace, physicality and sensuality of this dancer just blows my mind. Courtesy of PerthStripper.
BiRequest
OK, so it's not exactly kinky these days to be bi or pansexual. But I still go to BiRequest held the 1st and 3rd Thursday at the GLBT Center in NYC. It is a great discussion group and a super supportive safe space for Bi, Pan, questioning, and/or partners and allies of any gender. I knew I was attracted to women from my early teens but never acted on it seriously until a few years ago. BiRequest was my first opportunity to be with a larger group of Bi people. It felt like coming home; I was immediately comfortable. I would also credit that positive experience for giving me the courage to seek out more Kink groups like TES and LSM for support and camaraderie for my kinky side. While "Bi" is considered by some to be too limiting a classification, this group is not. The group is very welcoming and open, and several of us there identify as pansexual or something broader. But BiRequest gives us a place to come together and discuss the many flavors of Bi sexuality in the safety of a circle of our peers. Plus there is always a low-key and enjoyable dinner to follow. Join us!
Thursday, December 4, 2008
My Favorite Party: Pleasure Salon
So far my favorite NYC kink party has got to be "Pleasure Salon" held on the 1st Wednesday of every month at the Happy Ending Lounge, on 302 Broome Street, in Manhattan. The description for Pleasure Salon is:
Pleasure Salon
6:00
Ground Floor, Happy Ending Lounge
1st Wednesday of every month
The Pleasure Salon has been created to build community, allowing sex-positive activists to cross-pollinate. Our gatherings bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBT, sex-activist, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra, dark odyssey, sex-blogger, porn, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex. (Let us know if we missed any one of you!) Through building networks in the sex-positive community, The Pleasure Salon hopes to help create a sex-positive world. It is a place for the open exchange of ideas and sensual expression.
Write to: info@tantrrapm.com to request an evite.
I have only gone twice and each time I have had an amazing time. The crowd is every bit as diverse as it's billed to be. I met friends there from many of the communities I circulate in. The Dark Odyssey, TES, BiRequest, LSM, and the PolyNYC communities were all represented, just to name a few. The space is inviting and comfortable, drinks are great. OK, the fru-fru ones I was in the mood for last night were a bit pricey but oh-so-delicious. There is lots of hugging, necking, fondling, tickling and the occasional spanking or punch-fest going on, all in consentual good fun. Last night, I had a philosophical conversation about the merits of no-toys required BDSM, learned clever crazy-glue tricks and tips from a known expert in all things devious, had my hair played with by a gorgeous red head, discussed NYC burlesque with a sometime wookie lumberjack, and, well, my nipples will not be forgetting a very pretty (and bouncy) kitty girl for a long while. I lost count of the luscious kisses I collected. So definitely, kinksters and kinksterretes, do not miss the next one! You won't regret it.
Pleasure Salon
6:00
Ground Floor, Happy Ending Lounge
1st Wednesday of every month
The Pleasure Salon has been created to build community, allowing sex-positive activists to cross-pollinate. Our gatherings bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBT, sex-activist, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra, dark odyssey, sex-blogger, porn, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex. (Let us know if we missed any one of you!) Through building networks in the sex-positive community, The Pleasure Salon hopes to help create a sex-positive world. It is a place for the open exchange of ideas and sensual expression.
Write to: info@tantrrapm.com to request an evite.
I have only gone twice and each time I have had an amazing time. The crowd is every bit as diverse as it's billed to be. I met friends there from many of the communities I circulate in. The Dark Odyssey, TES, BiRequest, LSM, and the PolyNYC communities were all represented, just to name a few. The space is inviting and comfortable, drinks are great. OK, the fru-fru ones I was in the mood for last night were a bit pricey but oh-so-delicious. There is lots of hugging, necking, fondling, tickling and the occasional spanking or punch-fest going on, all in consentual good fun. Last night, I had a philosophical conversation about the merits of no-toys required BDSM, learned clever crazy-glue tricks and tips from a known expert in all things devious, had my hair played with by a gorgeous red head, discussed NYC burlesque with a sometime wookie lumberjack, and, well, my nipples will not be forgetting a very pretty (and bouncy) kitty girl for a long while. I lost count of the luscious kisses I collected. So definitely, kinksters and kinksterretes, do not miss the next one! You won't regret it.
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Paradise Lost
Last night I ventured out into the NYC night looking for a little nasty fun. I have been wishing for a place to play that had some music and dancing mixed in with BDSM. When I read the advert for "Paradise Lost", well, I thought it just might be paradise found. So I packed my tools and headed off loaded for bear...
The club were it was held was called Rehab, located at 25 Avenue B between, 2nd and 3rd Street. Downstairs, there was a live band and a full bar. Upstairs was the "play" room. It was an attractive space with a bar and ample comfortable seating. The DJ made sure the music was hot, and there was a screen with interesting visuals playing. To bill it as a "FLOOR DEVOTED ENTIRELY TO THE ART OF PLAY" though? Not so much. OK, devoted to "play", maybe. BDSM play? An afterthought at best. When I first walked in, I could not even tell it was a play party. Upon closer inspection, there were a couple of St Andrews crosses, and something with D-rings on it being used as a coffee table. One cross was positioned so to get to the toilet and coat check, you would have to walk between the Dom and their sub. The other cross was surrounded by tables within 3-4 feet . Mostly people were just leaning on the stuff. But, I figured the night was young, so waited to see what developed.
The crowd was a little thin when I got there but that improved quickly. One after another, the prettiest eye candy you ever did see sauntered in. Plenty of leather, latex, lace, skin, vampire contact lenses, perfect makeup and hair, in a rainbow of creative colors were being shown off. The scenery was easy on the eyes and entertaining. People were grooving to the music and each other. The crowd was only slightly cliquish and pretty friendly. It was a good time to be had.
The upstairs bar was slightly removed from the actual "play" area. It was well-stocked and the drinks were cheap by NYC standards, $5.00 well drinks pretty much all night. It was enhanced by a very comfy human carpet ... I wonder if he had to pay for the privilege of being trampled. In this room there were two vending tables with leather and floggers and some latex. The atmosphere was further enhanced when the "human buffets" came out. Two saran-wrapped clad lovelies covered with whipped cream, fresh fruit, mini brownies and... munchkins. On the bar. As if munchkins weren't tempting enough... sigh.
As it got later, there was more BDSM play to be seen. The scenes were short, light and theatrical. One Domme had dollar bills sticking out of her bustier like a stripper. The participants, Dom and sub, were enjoying themselves. Even the other Domme who had to stop every time someone had to go to the bathroom was smiling.
All in all, Paradise Lost is a wonderful kinky party. If you want to have a couple of drinks, enjoy live music and dancing, and a pretty crowd in a BDSM-themed environment, it's really great. If you are looking for a place where you can actually swing a full-sized flogger, it's not so great. Bring the shorter stuff, paddles, riding crops, canes, etc. and you might do better.
Paradise Lost is really fun but it would be perfect if they just moved the furniture around a little!!!
The club were it was held was called Rehab, located at 25 Avenue B between, 2nd and 3rd Street. Downstairs, there was a live band and a full bar. Upstairs was the "play" room. It was an attractive space with a bar and ample comfortable seating. The DJ made sure the music was hot, and there was a screen with interesting visuals playing. To bill it as a "FLOOR DEVOTED ENTIRELY TO THE ART OF PLAY" though? Not so much. OK, devoted to "play", maybe. BDSM play? An afterthought at best. When I first walked in, I could not even tell it was a play party. Upon closer inspection, there were a couple of St Andrews crosses, and something with D-rings on it being used as a coffee table. One cross was positioned so to get to the toilet and coat check, you would have to walk between the Dom and their sub. The other cross was surrounded by tables within 3-4 feet . Mostly people were just leaning on the stuff. But, I figured the night was young, so waited to see what developed.
The crowd was a little thin when I got there but that improved quickly. One after another, the prettiest eye candy you ever did see sauntered in. Plenty of leather, latex, lace, skin, vampire contact lenses, perfect makeup and hair, in a rainbow of creative colors were being shown off. The scenery was easy on the eyes and entertaining. People were grooving to the music and each other. The crowd was only slightly cliquish and pretty friendly. It was a good time to be had.
The upstairs bar was slightly removed from the actual "play" area. It was well-stocked and the drinks were cheap by NYC standards, $5.00 well drinks pretty much all night. It was enhanced by a very comfy human carpet ... I wonder if he had to pay for the privilege of being trampled. In this room there were two vending tables with leather and floggers and some latex. The atmosphere was further enhanced when the "human buffets" came out. Two saran-wrapped clad lovelies covered with whipped cream, fresh fruit, mini brownies and... munchkins. On the bar. As if munchkins weren't tempting enough... sigh.
As it got later, there was more BDSM play to be seen. The scenes were short, light and theatrical. One Domme had dollar bills sticking out of her bustier like a stripper. The participants, Dom and sub, were enjoying themselves. Even the other Domme who had to stop every time someone had to go to the bathroom was smiling.
All in all, Paradise Lost is a wonderful kinky party. If you want to have a couple of drinks, enjoy live music and dancing, and a pretty crowd in a BDSM-themed environment, it's really great. If you are looking for a place where you can actually swing a full-sized flogger, it's not so great. Bring the shorter stuff, paddles, riding crops, canes, etc. and you might do better.
Paradise Lost is really fun but it would be perfect if they just moved the furniture around a little!!!
Friday, November 28, 2008
Black Friday Kink
Vanilla shopping giving you the blah's? Here are a couple of fine alternatives if you are wandering around the Big Apple looking for something a little spicier.
For a wide selection of kinky toys and tools, awesome clothing (including plus size), reading material, and extremely knowledgeable and friendly staff, head on over to Purple Passion over on 211 West 20th Street. With several locations for your convenience, Babeland offers an amazing selection of vibrators, dildos, lubes, condoms, strap ons, etc. All vibes have samples available for examination. The atmosphere is very friendly, welcoming, non-threatening to the shiest explorers. Over on Christopher street you will find the venerable Leatherman (founded in 1965) with a huge selection of Leather clothing and some toys to boot. If rubber is your pleasure, check out DeMask on 144 Orchard Street for Latex and Leather kink wear. If during all your running around you suddenly get the urge for an impromptu piercing, or if you are just looking for a bauble for a special bad girl or boy, Leroi, Inc. jewelers, 174 Ludlow St, has a fine reputation and a great selection. For tattoos, piercing, fine jewelery and henna tattoos, check out New York Adorned on 47 Second Avenue or at their Brooklyn location at 376 Bedford Avenue.
For those of you who prefer to avoid the crowds all of these vendors can be found online.
Happy shopping!
For a wide selection of kinky toys and tools, awesome clothing (including plus size), reading material, and extremely knowledgeable and friendly staff, head on over to Purple Passion over on 211 West 20th Street. With several locations for your convenience, Babeland offers an amazing selection of vibrators, dildos, lubes, condoms, strap ons, etc. All vibes have samples available for examination. The atmosphere is very friendly, welcoming, non-threatening to the shiest explorers. Over on Christopher street you will find the venerable Leatherman (founded in 1965) with a huge selection of Leather clothing and some toys to boot. If rubber is your pleasure, check out DeMask on 144 Orchard Street for Latex and Leather kink wear. If during all your running around you suddenly get the urge for an impromptu piercing, or if you are just looking for a bauble for a special bad girl or boy, Leroi, Inc. jewelers, 174 Ludlow St, has a fine reputation and a great selection. For tattoos, piercing, fine jewelery and henna tattoos, check out New York Adorned on 47 Second Avenue or at their Brooklyn location at 376 Bedford Avenue.
For those of you who prefer to avoid the crowds all of these vendors can be found online.
Happy shopping!
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Thanksgiving Distractions
So what's a NYC Kinkster to do once the post-turkey lull subsides? Well , there are a few possibilities. DsF is having their Thanksgiving Social at Paddles on Friday night, the 28th. On the same night, Paradise Lost is having a party that looks highly enticing: Hot DJ's, Kink, Vending and a dance floor, hmmm.... Our friends at TES are taking a weekend off, but they are already plotting for their New Years Party which is just bound to be fantabulous.
On Saturday, November 29th, Brooklyn is the place to be. To kick off the evening a group of kinksters are getting together informally at the Tea Lounge in Park Slope for some Scrabble at 6:00 o'clock. You heard right, Scrabble - how kinky is that! Hmmm, I wonder what the score for "Gynemimetophilia" would be? After you have exhausted you lexicon, you could grab one of your new literate companions and head over to CasBar for the Pimp and Ho ball.
For other DsF events, you can check their calendar. TES also keeps a calendar. Also, the nycALTevents calendar should help you track down the latest kink and sex-positive events in the area.
The (not so secret) Freak wishes each of you a kinky and orgasmic Thanksgiving.
On Saturday, November 29th, Brooklyn is the place to be. To kick off the evening a group of kinksters are getting together informally at the Tea Lounge in Park Slope for some Scrabble at 6:00 o'clock. You heard right, Scrabble - how kinky is that! Hmmm, I wonder what the score for "Gynemimetophilia" would be? After you have exhausted you lexicon, you could grab one of your new literate companions and head over to CasBar for the Pimp and Ho ball.
For other DsF events, you can check their calendar. TES also keeps a calendar. Also, the nycALTevents calendar should help you track down the latest kink and sex-positive events in the area.
The (not so secret) Freak wishes each of you a kinky and orgasmic Thanksgiving.
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Welcome
Welcome Kinksters, Kinksterettes and Friendly Voyeurs to the Kinkster Review. Currently a work in process, the Kinkster Review will be a blog and ultimately a videoblog on the NYC Kink scene. Major Kink Events will also be covered.
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